Thursday, April 9, 2009

Kids or No Kids?

This debate isn't whether or not my fiance and I will have kids - that is a given for us! (And my parents are aching for grandkids and wouldn't have it any other way). :)

Should we, or should we not, invite kids to the wedding? Add them to the guest list, and the total jumps astronomically. But it is inevitable that some guests will bring them anyway. What about out of town guests? Where should their children be during the wedding? Oh the dilemmas!

What do you think? Kids or no kids?

And for some inspiration, check out this adorable kids table by Paul Johnson Photography!


  1. We are inviting kids that we know (and love). If we don't know your kid (or like them....that's so mean, I know) then the kids aren't invited.

    It does get tough when you have out of town guests with kids since they will more than likely come with the parents.

    Good luck!!!!

  2. Well we tried to not invite kids (except for immediate family) but it didn't matter. People brought their kids along any way.

  3. I say unless you know their kids don't invite them. If you're inviting someone who has kids but you don't really know them then on the inside envelope write something like "Adults Only".

  4. It's me Bailey:
    Being a friend of yours WITH kids... I'm going to say the same thing I said before. YOU do what YOU want and don't worry about anyone else. This is your day. It would be hard for the people out of town but you could allow those kids. Feel free to pick and chose. THIS IS YOUR DAY. ;) As for me, I'll bring mine no matter what you decide, someones gotta do it right?! Im kidding. Actually, DONT invite my kids, that way we can get a night off ;)

  5. We are doing no kids. I gave me a lot of stress, and it still does. Some people will not be happy, but that's just how it is. I am trying for an elegant and fancy wedding. I do not want a bunch of 2-7 year olds running around.

  6. I think that is so tough b/c some people don't have a choice to bring theirs and then some people don't have the respect to make their kids be quiet and not run around. she said above, its your day and you do what you want. As long as you know Malachi will be there!!!!!! lol

    I did have a friend do the kids table and she said it was great. The kids were at it all night staying to themselves.

  7. just stopped by form weddingbee. My fiancee and I are in the same predicament. We're also figuring out the guests with kids thing, not to mention the out-of-towners who have kids. I enjoyed reading your entries. keep it up!

  8. It's your day but...If you decide not to invite the kids, just don't be disappointed when the parents don't come either (especially out-of-town folks who would have enough pre-babysitter expenses as it is). When I'm told I can't bring my kids it feels as though I'm being treated as 2nd class. Love me love my kids. And what's a reception without dancing laughing beautiful children living it up? A wedding is a celebration of your future *family*. :)

  9. Bailey again:
    I will add that kids at the wedding can add something special. The dancing is priceless, and she's right, it will make some people not show up at all, and Jessica is right too, some people can't/wont keep their kids under control. It's a touch decision girl.