Tuesday, April 7, 2009

An Invitation Quandary

Let me give you the back story on our invitations. I found some online that I liked (pictured below) and ordered a sample from the online store.





When I got the sample in the mail, I discovered they had sent us the WRONG invitation! But get this - my fiance and I liked the one they sent on mistake better than the one we ordered! (Picture not included since they may be the one we choose - and I don't want to ruin every suprise.) :)

We assumed it would be out of our budget so we figured out how we could make them ourselves. But I talked to the store we would order them from, and found out that the quote is the same price as if we made them ourselves! I love them, it saves us all the labor, AND they would have the raised print!


But today I discovered that the invitations would not come with an inner envelope. What is with people ditching etiquette?? Here is the issue. My friend that sent out her invites without an inner envelope is having issues with people adding to their guestlist - for instance, the outer envelope just says "Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith", but they are assuming the whole family is invited. Apparantly, the inner envelope is usually where the specific names invited would be written. But then again, these people would probably still assume everyone is invited even if there was an inner envelope! Oh the dilemmas.


What do you think? Is the missing inner envelope a big deal?

12 comments:

  1. You already know I feel your pain...I'm desperately hoping for some answers here as well...So...post away girls!!!!

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  2. Since mine were DIY, I got my inner envelopes at Micheal's. (the craft store here)
    Can you buy envelopes on your own and use them with the invitations? Just an diea..

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  3. I think the inner envelope is more important than the embossed lettering. I think that is what makes the invitation look rich.

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  4. I think you could use your own if you really wanted them. BUT I will add that, people will ALWAYS add more than invited unless you are specific. And even then, you will always have a few that try anyways. If children are not invited, you need to say so, this is your day, no room for questions so you wont feel guilty when uncle bobs second cousin wants to bring all 11 of their children. So regardless of what you decide with the envelope, be specific. Love you tons!

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  5. If it says Mr. and Mrs. John Carter.....they are gonna bring their two kids. Unless you specifically say, children not invited, you have to expect that they are gonna bring them. That's just how it is. And....even if there is a cousin visiting from out of town, they are probably gonna bring them cause they don't wanna leave them home. lol On to the inner envelope....although it looks nice and may be proper etiquette....have you really thought about it and that it is just another thing that you are spending money on that is going to go directly into the trash can. Spend the money somewhere else on something that will be looked at for more than two seconds.

    Nick said, "An extra envelope isn't going to stop people from bringing extra people. Go with email invitations." LOL OH LORD!

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  6. No, an inner envelope doesn't matter plus it kills more trees.. Just sayin'

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  7. I don't think that the inner envelope is that big of a deal. I think every wedding invite I have received as of late has not had an inner envelope. Even with the inner envelope many will still assume that they can bring kids unless you put 'Adults only reception' on your invite. Unfortunately, people don't seem to understand that their kids names were left off for a reason with or without an inner envelope. Good luck!

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  8. We dictched our inner envelopes -- we're just very specifically addressing the outer ones.

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  9. I don't think they're that big of a deal. People are going to bring who they want to bring whether you only invite them or not! I'm glad the mistake was remedied though!

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  10. Go to the professional, Callie. Go to the Paper Pad and get them done right. People can always tell when you do them yourself, sorry all you computer/printer geeks, but bottom line is, the style of the invite should match the style of the wedding, and homemade invites mean... Plus I have received many invites with improper wording, and a pro will make sure that doesn't happen. signed, Invite Snob

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  11. PS Inner/Outer env. Do you know why there are 2 envelopes?? There is a story to this and It has nothing to do with the addressing them. Aunti C

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